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a 21-year-old woman sprawled on her living room floor, giggling as a fluffy puppy named Delilah pounces on a squeaky toy. What started as a favor for her cousin has turned into a full-blown love affair with this quick-learning, tail-wagging sweetheart. But beneath the playful moments lies a brewing storm: the cousin wants Delilah back, and the family is up in arms. The young woman’s heart aches—she’s poured time, money, and love into this pup, only to learn her cousin’s track record with pets is shaky at best.

This Reddit tale tugs at the heartstrings, blending the joy of pet parenthood with the sting of family drama. Readers are left wondering: is it fair to keep a dog you’ve nurtured when its original owner demands it back? The story’s emotional depth and ethical gray area make it a perfect storm for heated online debates.

I (21F) have been watching my cousin's (29F) puppy for just about two months now. My cousin adopted the puppy (her name is Delilah!) from the shelter two ish months ago. My cousin at the time was living in an apartment complex that didn't allow pets. My cousin was aware of this, but decided to get the dog anyway.

Surprise, she gets in trouble with the building a few days after adopting Delilah. They tell her either the dog leaves, or she moves out. My cousin talked to different members of the family and asked if anyone could watch Delilah while she looks for a new place to live. Nobody was able to take in the dog so I offered to take her because I didn't want the poor thing to go to the shelter.

I go pick up Delilah and my cousin doesn't have any supplies to give me, just what is left of the dog food and her tags. Whatever. I take Delilah to where I'm living and get her settled. I go to the store and get her a collar, leash, bed, new food, bowls, toys, etc. I'm spending my own money, but I don't care because I want this puppy to be happy and comfortable.

A week passes, and then more weeks pass. My cousin doesn't communicate with me often. I try to check in with her and she says she's working on finding a place. After several weeks my cousin said she has found a new apartment to move in to. She sends me the info to show me. It very obviously states that **they do not allow pets.** What the hell?

I point this out to her and she insists they might change their mind since Delilah is so well behaved (I was the one who had to train her since she was living with me.) I don't hear from my cousin for awhile again. Here we are now, about two months later. I am absolutely best friends with this dog, I love her more than anything.

She is a quick learner and an absolute sweetheart.  We've been on vet visits, I've been grooming her, spending my own money on everything she needs so I can take very good care of her. My cousin contacts me a few days ago and says she is ready to take Delilah back.

She tells me about her living situation and that she is living with her boyfriend and his buddies at their place.  To make a long story short, they aren't a good crowd, and I didn't think it was a good idea for Delilah to live there. I told my cousin that I was sorry but I felt uncomfortable sending Delilah there,

and that I have been caring for her and spending all of my own money on her for two months and frankly, I wanted to keep her. My cousin was disgusted with me and called me a lot of swear words which I will not be repeating. She hasn't spoken to me since, but hasn't made any attempt to get Delilah back either. 

I've been getting messages and calls from other cousins and aunts calling me a thief and saying I'm a horrible person.  **AITA for not returning the dog?** (Also, I'm not worried about legal trouble, my family wouldn't do that and let's just say they don't have a good track record with the law.)

This furry fiasco is more than a family spat—it’s a clash of responsibility and attachment. The young woman stepped up when her cousin’s impulsive decision to adopt a pet clashed with reality, only to find herself in a moral tug-of-war. The cousin’s disregard for pet policies and history of abandoning animals paints a troubling picture, while the OP’s dedication to Delilah’s care suggests a deeper bond.

Pet ownership isn’t just about legal claims; it’s about who’s truly committed to an animal’s well-being. According to Dr. Karen Becker, a renowned veterinarian, “Pets thrive on consistency and care, and sudden changes in their environment can cause stress” (Mercola Healthy Pets). The OP’s investment—training, vet visits, and supplies—shows she’s provided that stability, while the cousin’s erratic behavior raises red flags.

This situation reflects a broader issue: pet abandonment. The ASPCA reports that approximately 6.3 million pets enter U.S. shelters annually, with many due to owners’ inability to provide proper care (ASPCA). The cousin’s history of returning animals suggests Delilah could face a similar fate, especially in an unstable living situation with questionable roommates.

Dr. Becker’s advice emphasizes prioritizing the pet’s needs: “A dog’s emotional and physical health depends on a stable, loving environment.” Here, the OP’s home seems to fit the bill, while the cousin’s track record doesn’t inspire confidence. For the OP, keeping Delilah might mean offering to reimburse adoption fees to smooth things over, but she should also document her care (vet bills, microchipping) to solidify her role as the primary caregiver.

See what others had to share with OP:

The Reddit community didn’t hold back, dishing out opinions with equal parts sass and sympathy. Here’s a roundup of the top takes:

PoetryUpInThisBitch - I think this is an E S H by the letter of the law, but I'm gonna vote NTA. Delilah is your sister's property, legally. She put Delilah in your care with the expectation she'd receive her back when finding a place to live. You've had Delilah for two months now and have likely gone through several developmental milestones with her.

You've trained her, spent a great deal of your own money on her care and needs, and - for all intents and purposes - she is your dog now. My wife is a vet. She sees firsthand how many people abuse and n**lect their pets. Your cousin has a track record of returning animals and behaving extremely irresponsibly.

There is a high likelihood that, at best, she will simply keep Delilah and provide food and water with little thought for her needs. I would argue it's more likely she will be neglected and eventually either be returned to the shelter (as a much-more-difficult-to-adopt-out adult dog, with all the training you've done long since forgotten),

or returned (or euthanized) at the first hint of any medical issues. So technically you're being an a**hole, but at the same time you're doing it for all the right reasons. Thank you, and give Delilah a head scratch from me. :)

EDIT: Also, just to be safe, I would get the dog microchipped and registered to you ASAP. If you county has licensing requirements (typically requires a rabies vaccination), get that done ASAP as well and establish ownership that way, too.

gucknbuck - If Judge Judy was overseeing this case she would make you pay your cousin back whatever fees they paid to get the dog, but then let you keep the dog. NTA. Your cousin made a reckless decision but luckily you were able to be there for that puppy.

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